fino999 asked:

?Draigh’s Mommy!! asked:

Like the parents who worry about what they have to do to be “Attachment Parents” or using the ferber method, or any other kind of method? Why not just focus on taking good care of the baby and not relying so much on what some book says to do? Just think about parents from 60+ years ago…there weren’t books telling them what they HAD to do to be good parents, or telling them what NOT to do. I just think it’s rediculous. Be a good parent..make sure your baby is happy, healthy, well fed, clean, and have a good time with your baby…play with them and such. So many people are stressing out over following these rules set by different parenting methods and not just enjoying their children.
I am saying why not just do what you like to. I mean, I love my son…he sleeps in his own crib…in his own room, but when he needs to sleep with me or won’t sleep in his crib then he does, I don’t let him cry all the time, but I don’t pick him up right off the bat when he starts fussing, he’s bottle fed not breast (by his choice not mine). That doesn’t really seem to follow any of the methods, does it?

And yes, I was asking for other people’s opinions…trying to see why people chose to use these methods and why other people agree with my opinion.
I am not saying that people shouldn’t ask others for advice about what to do with their kids, but I am just saying that people shouldn’t just follow one set of rules. Take aspects from everything and most of all follow your instincts, they won’t let you go wrong…that’s why they are there. But don’t put all of your faith into one source. That’s all I’m saying.

cute_kitty asked:


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ifyewonlyknew asked:

I have so many issues around parenting that it leaves me to feel like a horrible parent on most days. I don’t beat my kids or call them names but I am a single mother and I find myself feeling resentful at being a mother on most days. The logical side of my brain says “They are just kids” but the other side says: WTF? this is NOT joyous at ALL!!!!
I was adopted as a child and I know this has had a huge impact on my life/parenting, even though I was reunited with my birthmother 2 years ago. How do i find a way to stop hating being a parent. I resent their fathers , I resent them. I hate my life as a parent most of the time and I feel guilty for feeling this way!! I look back on the circumstances of their conception and think “what was I thinking???” I have 2 daughters and I love them I just don’t know if I have what it takes anymore. The older I get the more I hate parenting..I need help. Does/has anyone ever felt this way?? I feel alone.
The advice has been good and on point. I think I need to speak with someone as I have alot of anger towards their fathers. I feel alone in handling the tasks of running a household and I feel like I give give give but don’t have a way to replenish the energy.

cowboy_fan asked:

I think it’s ridiculous. You can read books and take parenting classes to improve the skills and instincts you already have but I don’t think taking parenting classes can turn someone who abused and neglected their children into a good parent.

I know some natural mothers didn’t have good parental models to begin with but I don’t think this is a good excuse. My mom did not always model what a good parent should be. She had anger problems. This makes me try even harder not to lose my temper around my son.

I think if you have to take parenting classes to learn not to abuse and neglect your child, you lack that mothering instinct to protect your child at all cost. I think parenting classes reflect what our society has come to: a bunch of people who don’t want to take responsibility and control of our own lives. We always want to blame someone else for our own actions.

Anybody else’s thoughts?
Vanessa: I’m sorry if I came across as saying my mom wasn’t a good mom. Overall, she was a great mom, but she did deal with anger problems and fought with my dad often in front of me. I try very hard not to model this behavior to my family.
Joy: You bet I deal with controlling my anger. There is nothing wrong with admitting you struggle with issues. However, I don’t take it out on my children. I reserve people like you for that. Oh and by the way, there is nothing wrong with getting a little angry sometimes. Especially at child abusers and the people who defend them. I have no problem admitting that makes me angry!
Joy: People who defend child abusers are probably child abusers themselves. Joy M defends child abusers all the time on this forum. She believes children should be with their natural mothers at all cost. Just the other day she was defending a woman who got tired of her children whining when they were sick. She aplauded this woman for getting her children out of foster care even though the woman posted questions about abusing her children. This makes Joy M happy because it probably validates the abuse she exposes her children to.
Also, people who feel the need to call complete strangers “Honey” and “Sweetie” all the time struggle with severe self esteem and intimacy issues. This is a proven fact! Don’t ya’ll hate that? I know you’ve met people like this. I’m thinking “seriously, I don’t know you. Please don’t refer to me as honey.”